All of us have different practices for comfort, coping, and numbing when life feels overwhelming. What feels like relief to one person may not feel positive at all to another. When I think of the many different distractions that humans may seek to numb, cope, or comfort, my mind goes straight to the obvious: substances like drugs, alcohol, and food. When I reflect a bit further, social media, television, and work also come to mind. In reality, all of these are very common forms of escape, but I would argue that there is one practice in particular that many of us lean on more than we may admit.
“Sorry, no can do, life is just so busy right now”.
We live in a culture where our busy schedule feels like a direct translation to our value. If we are booked solid with activity, travel, and appointments, our brain shifts into go-go-go mode, tricking this feeling of productivity into a false sense of purpose. When we are frantic with activity, we don’t allow ourselves quiet moments for reflection. When our calendar is booked solid, we have no space to consider if something needs to evolve, change, or end. When we are in schedule survival mode, simply trying to get through the day, week, or month, we are not allowing ourselves to consider how we truly desire to spend our time.
The majority of my life has been overbooked, tightly scheduled, and logistically complicated. From sleeping at different family members’ homes to engaging in entirely too many extracurricular activities to working multiple jobs while going to school, I was very guilty of aligning my value with my level of BUSY. In recent years, I have started to realize that not only was this a (false) assessment of my worthiness, but it was also a tool that I was using to avoid reflection. If I am booked solid, where is my time to dream about the life I want to live? If I am rushing from one appointment to the next, when do I feel the feelings that are a part of my day? If I am exhausted, how can I possibly assess if I am happy?
When we prioritize staying busy, we disconnect from our feelings, intuition, and desires. By allowing ourselves time for restoration and reflection, we can expand and make space for more. When we get quiet and listen to our inner knowing, we can visualize a future filled with more sparkle.
I have recently challenged myself to get more selective in how I spend my time. The challenge is to pause and reflect rather than always saying yes to make others happy. By checking in with myself about what I truly desire I am allowing my life experience to evolve. When I say yes to things that do not bring me joy, support my growth, or untap my sparkle, I am saying no to potential new opportunities or time for me to get quiet and listen to my inner knowing. By making space in my schedule, I am telling the Universe and myself that I welcome new opportunities to sparkle to my life.
How can you make space for sparkle in your days this week?
Let’s Sparkle Together.
P.S. Do you have the space for more sparkle, but don't know where to begin? Contact me at Mary@UntapYourSparkle.com.