As a recovering people pleaser, my opinion of “mistakes” has had to evolve dramatically over the years. Most people would agree that making mistakes is a terrible feeling. Guilt about letting people down, the shame of feeling stupid, and the anxiety that comes with creating a speed bump in a smooth road to productivity all leave me feeling less than my best. In my process of embracing my worthiness and my sparkle, evaluating mistakes (and my response to them) has been an integral part of changing my perspective.
Humans make mistakes all the time. Likely, we have all made at least a few this week already. From little moments like typos or mixing up meeting times to big moments like forgetting an important event or disappointing your partner, mistakes are a real part of life. For some of us, just the idea of making a mistake causes intense anxiety and fear. By attaching so much pressure to be perfect in our existence, we lose sight of the fact that mistakes are often required to learn and grow.
When I look back on my life, are there moments that I wish I could edit or erase? Of course! My tattoo removal budget alone is proof of this! (For real, though.) But, without the bumps, slow downs, and wrong turns, I would not be the sparkly human that I am today. If everything came easy to me, I would not appreciate the life I have, nor would I have the desire to support others.
In addition to the big mistakes that sometimes lead us down unexpected life paths, the small mistakes also teach us important lessons. I believe that when I do something incorrectly the first time around and it doesn’t go as planned, my brain pays a bit more attention to the process when I am trying to do it correctly. If every single thing we tried to do came easy, where would our passion and motivation come from?
How would your experience in life change if you gave yourself permission to make mistakes? How would your view of yourself change is you accepted that mistakes are a valuable tool in our development? How would you expand and explore the possibilities of your life if stumbling, falling, or making a wrong turn was celebrated as growth?
We all want to exceed expectations in our work performance, relationship skills, health focus, and social interactions; but in reality, that is not the way life works. Did I wish that the first Whole30 I completed would leave me with everlasting Food Freedom, never eating my feelings again? Of course! But had I not found myself face first back in a bag of Sour Patch Kids, I would not have come to see the beauty in learning about my relationship with food and the power of building upon my foundation of wellness and health habits. Did I wish that I finished college during my first attempt right after high school? Oh man, did I carry so much self-hatred for how my first (literal) college try turned out. But had I stayed that course, I would not have the resilience and experience I have today, nor would I have met some of the most important people in my life.
Mistakes may feel devastating in the moment, but they just might be exactly what we need to land on the path that leads to our brightest moments of sparkle.
This week, I challenge you to embrace your mistakes. Each and every breath we take is a moment to begin again, and to learn from the previous moment. Rather than allowing feelings of shame, guilt, or anxiety, put your energy toward reframing the situation as a celebration of a new lesson in life.
Mistakes, stumbles, speed bumps, and wrong turns are where we learn to sparkle the very most. Let’s celebrate these moments as evolution and expansion.
As my old friend Yoda tells us, “The greatest teacher, failure is.”
Let’s Sparkle Together.