When I think of my friends, family, and community, the unique and multi-faceted sparkle in each individual overwhelms me. As I reflect on this, I realize that the beauty is not in the shiny, filtered, perfectly angled, gorgeously lit version of these humans that is often shown on social media. The sparkle truly comes in the real-ness of these beings. There is beauty in the joy and the sadness; the struggles and the success; the bad days and the best days. We are all brainwashed to think of health, wellness, and sparkle as the perfect images we see on social media, when in reality, the true sparkle comes when we are authentic, vulnerable, and our perfectly imperfect selves.
We are all guilty of trying to present the best versions of ourselves to the world. I know I am. What if we removed the smoke and mirrors and filters and strategic cropping? Perhaps, showing our vulnerable side, embracing all the feelings of authenticity, and even admitting to the less than pristine moments would create a shift within us and within our social circles.
As I continue to untap my sparkle and walk with my clients in their sparkle exploration, my desire to celebrate all aspects of our innate humanness just keeps growing. The messiness of it all is so beautiful when we press pause on our ego, image, and personal brand.
In my own life, I have days when I am terribly homesick for family and friends as I explore my new city, and days where the new possibilities and excitement feel infinite. I have moments where I feel so strong, beautiful, and healthy followed by a glimpse in the mirror or a peek at a photo and all of that is shattered, my negative self-talk taking the reins to tell me about my ugliness and lack of worth. Sometimes I feel rich with strong family bonds and amazing friendships and other times I feel isolated, lonely, and wildly uncool. My life includes moments where I feel like an adventurous adult following her dreams followed by guilt, fear, and sadness that I live far away from many of the most important people in my life and my path is not completely traditional. My days include feelings of creativity, confusion, joy, loneliness, delight, sadness, fear, confidence, shame, connection, passion, guilt, and inspiration. All of this occurs because I am a human.
Maybe our sparkle intensifies when we begin expressing our true feelings, showing our real selves, releasing the expectation that we will filter and Photoshop and reframe it all into perfection. Maybe when we admit to having glum moods, making imperfect life choices, feeling shame and self-doubt about ourselves and what path we are on, we will find more connection.
I believe that if we show more of our imperfect selves to one another, we will start to see more of each other’s unique, multifaceted sparkle, in turn shifting the definition and helping us to see more of that sparkle in ourselves.
Imperfectly. Authentically. Humanly.