Every December I find myself surprised by how busy life feels. The to do lists keep growing (and my Type-A tendencies get more and more triggered) as I envision closing the year with every loose end tied up in a perfect, beautiful bow. Sometimes, I need to stop and take a dose of my own sparkle medicine and remind myself of the sparkle in the messiness and the chaos.
Life keeps moving forward, whether I checked everything off my color-coded excel spreadsheet or not. That is the beauty of this human experience. Our so-called imperfections are exactly where we are granted more opportunity for sparkle. During this season of frenzied energy and overbooked schedules, it can be really easy to get caught up in the stress. I know that just this week, I have neglected my wants and desires by allowing my people pleasing nature to take the reigns. Wanting to make others happy is fine and well, but not when it means negotiating what is best for us.
We are all imperfect, beautiful, messy, sparkly humans. This is the gift. If you are in the holiday territory of “SHOULD-ing” all over yourself (i.e. “I should go do this”, “I should buy that”, “I should prioritize other people’s schedules over my own”), you are not alone. If you are assuming you are disappointing others, feeling like you are not good enough, or apologizing for your needs, wants, and existence, you are not alone. This is where many of us land during this wonderful, festive, and complicated season. The pressure to give perfect, thoughtful gifts and create joyful memories can be really draining. Some of us might even lean on old habits that don’t support our sparkle to get through these times.
Be kind to yourself this holiday season. You (and the sparkle that naturally comes with you) are the true gift in this life, both to yourself and to everyone with whom you are connected. If you find yourself down the SHOULD rabbit hole, remember that your existence is the gift. If you have a moment of clarity and realize that you have been leaning on a vice to keep your head above these waters of high expectations, please don’t beat yourself up.
If there is anything I know to be true, it is that we are all doing the very best we can. I know that can be hard to swallow at times, as there is ample room for growth, kindness, and change in this world. But if you approach yourself, your day, your loved ones, and your expectations with the idea that we are all doing the best we can, I find that it is easier to greet life with kindness and compassion. Which is exactly what is needed for us all to sparkle a bit brighter. When we sparkle brighter, we all benefit from this natural gift that we carry inside ourselves.
Your sparkle is a gift. I am grateful to be connected to so many individuals who radiate this magic. Thank you for sparkling with me. I just love sparkling together.